There are moments in life when I feel completely alone against the world. For me, it was and still is networking in French. Every attempt at making professional or personal connections in the language of Molière fills me with fear and ridicule. I feel like everyone around me is mocking my clumsy efforts, pronunciation, and I go deeper into solitude. Each failure only reinforced my sense of being an impostor. For a long time, I believed I would never be able to integrate into professional circles in France. After many years, I realized that I was the gatekeeper.
My Reality
What the Hell is Networking? The dictionary Le Robert—yes, I’m a geek—defines networking as “developing a network of relationships, particularly for professional purposes.” In Tanja language, it means connecting with people, building relationships to chat and seize hidden professional opportunities. It’s much more than superficial interactions; it’s about establishing meaningful connections.
But professional networking can be intimidating, regardless of the language. However, when it’s in a language I’m less proficient in, the anxiety can create a cocktail of “I want to leave NOW.” How do you conquer this dark beast? Here is my journey and takeaways for dancing with this fear.
My Story: Finding My Voice in French
Initial Block
I remember my first attempt at networking at a Francophone professional event. I was so nervous that I ended up staying silent, unable to form ONE coherent WORD. I felt like an impostor, incapable of selling my skills. I then turned to networking in English, a more familiar terrain for me.
First Baby Steps
Networking in English allowed me to find my voice. During my first networking event before COVID, I attended a networking event in a bar and actually participated in a lively conversation à la Tanja – VERY little! And began to make connections. It was both virtual and physical, and each interaction helped me gain confidence.
Trigger Time
One day, during an online event, I met a professional working at a company where I dreamed of applying. Thanks to an authentic conversation in “Franglais,” he gave me valuable career advice: ASK. That’s when I understood that I needed to open my linguistic cocoon and ASK.
Networking in English: Three Key Takeaways
- Ask for Advice
Never underestimate the power of asking for advice. People love to give it. I approach my close contacts, whether online or offline, and ask how my skills can stand out. Their advice can make all the difference in my job search internationally.- Example: “Could you give me some advice, please? There’s a position at your company that seems very interesting, and I would appreciate your insights. Given your experience with the company, do you have any suggestions on how I can make my application stand out?”
- Ask for Recommendations
Professional recommendations strengthen my credibility and show companies my added value, my skills, and my hidden talents. Then, I ask previous employers, clients, professors, and colleagues who know me well professionally to recommend me.- Example: “I am currently seeking opportunities in biotechnology marketing within your company. Would it be possible to request a reference from you? Thanks for your assistance.”
- Ask Your Existing Connections
I use my professional connections to expand my network. Then, I ask them to introduce me to people working in the sectors that interest me. Big Baby step! Now, I am specific! So no surprise. Imagine that I get the courage and ask but take whatever. That’s like mustering up all the courage to walk into a boulangerie (bakery) but not asking for the baguette! What a shame!! Social networks can also be a great resource.- Example: “Could you let me know if you know someone in that department? I would really appreciate it.”
Networking Nuggets: My Takeaways
Networking Outside My Linguistic Cocoon
Networking requires courage (Coeur = heart). It’s not easy, but it’s possible. I need to be curious, proactive, and willing to make an effort to build connections.
Stay Curious, Stay Connected
I don’t hesitate to share my projects, solutions to problems, and ideas during professional conversations. These exchanges enrich my network and make me more visible on the international job market.
Mastering the Art of Digital Mingling
Even if I’m more comfortable behind my screen, I use online platforms strategically. Participating in discussions, posting regularly on relevant topics, and engaging with my audience are all a good start.
What’s Next?
Professional networking in any foreign language IS intimidating, but with the right strategies, I can turn this fear into an asset. By asking for career advice, requesting recommendations, and leveraging my existing connections, I can develop a strong professional network. Remember, my network is the key to THE next job opportunity.
Ready to embark on the hidden international job market bilingually beautiful? Test my personal tips on a baby step scale and let me know. No matter how shy you are. Relationships take time and energy, so make them a regular habit like brushing your teeth.
